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Holding the Pen with Care

Writing your life story is brave.
Not because it’s polished or perfect—but because it’s honest, and honesty can be heavy.

As a trauma-informed memoir coach, I don’t just help people write. I come alongside them as they unfold their narrative—the tangled threads of memory, meaning, and identity—and try to make sense of it all on the page.

Writing a memoir can be deeply cathartic, but it’s not easy. Especially when your story holds trauma. It’s one thing to revisit a moment in your mind; it’s another to reenter it in language—to give it shape, weight, tone, and voice. That’s where the real work begins.

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Empty Nest, Full Heart: Learning to Let Go and Stay Connected

When my five children were growing up, I often felt like the soccer ball in a preschool match—surrounded at all times, everyone running after me, bumping into me, needing me. They were close. Physically, emotionally, spiritually. I knew what snacks they liked, what shows they were watching, who they were mad at, and what made their eyes light up. I was woven into every moment, every rhythm, every high and low.

And now, they are growing into their own lives—becoming adults with opinions, interests, beliefs, and boundaries that are beautifully different from mine. They’re finding their own way, as they should. And I’m learning to let them.

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The In-Between Time: Life After Endings, Before the Ground is Steady Again

This strange, liminal space—the in-between time—isn’t often talked about. It’s the space after a big ending but before a new beginning has taken root. You might feel untethered, exhausted, hopeful, grieving, curious, raw, and relieved all at once.

It’s not quite grief.
Not quite reinvention.
But something tender, vulnerable, and necessary in between.

It’s a time of rewiringrethinking, and reassessing.
A time of pausing.
A time of allowing your mind, body, and heart to process what has ended…
… and slowly, carefully, begin to ask, what now?

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The Midlife Unraveling: When Letting Go is the Bravest Thing

We don’t talk enough about what really happens in midlife—not the wrinkles or the hormones—but the inner unraveling.

Brené Brown describes this season so clearly in her article The Midlife Unraveling:

“Midlife is not a crisis. Midlife is an unraveling. By definition, you can’t control or manage an unraveling... It can’t be fixed like a car or upgraded like a phone.”

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Community vs. Conformity: Finding Your Voice in a World That Asks You to Blend In

We all long for connection—for a place where we feel seen, safe, and supported. Where someone will show up with a casserole when we’re sick, where our kids have built-in playmates, where Friday night means laughter around a bonfire or a Bible study or a shared meal.

And that’s what many high-control systems offer at first glance: a promise of belonging.

They tell you:

You matter here.
We’ll take care of you.
You don’t have to do life alone.

From childcare to chore help, spiritual advice to potlucks, these groups show up with enthusiasm, affection, and a structure that feels secure. It’s known as love bombing—an intense outpouring of praise, attention, and community that makes you feel immediately important, even chosen.

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Midlife Isn’t a Crisis - It’s a Conversation

Somewhere between managing calendars, raising kids, building careers, or faithfully playing the roles we were given, we start to hear a quiet voice asking: Is this it?
Or perhaps even louder: Who am I now?

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Invite Your Inner Child Back to the Party

Beneath the layers of adult responsibilities, past traumas, and protective mechanisms lies a younger version of yourself—your inner child. This is the part of you that once explored the world with wonder, embraced vulnerability without hesitation, and held dreams so pure they could light up your soul. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from that playful, joyful version of yourself, it might be because that child is in hiding, waiting for a safe invitation to come out.

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The Imposter in My Medicine Cabinet

The truth is, imposter syndrome can serve a purpose. It can push us to improve, to refine our skills, to seek deeper self-awareness. But it can also keep us stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, preventing us from owning our expertise and stepping into our full potential.

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Story Space

We all carry a story within us. Our lives are shaped by the narratives we tell ourselves about where we come from, who we are, what we've accomplished, and what we’ve endured. These stories define not only how we see ourselves but also how we engage with the world around us. In counseling, engaging in "story work" means unpacking and understanding these narratives—our origin, accomplishments, love, bias, and culture—and making sense of how they shape our current experiences.

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The Power of Slowing Down

The Power of Slowing Down

In our fast-paced world, the idea of slowing down might seem counterintuitive, especially when we're focused on achieving our professional goals. However, taking the time to slow down can be the key to unlocking personal and professional transformation.

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Transformation

Stories can help us make sense of our world, and they can also keep us stuck.

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